There are pieces of me missing. The world is breaking me, pulling me in different directions, yet I am looking to it to make me whole. Make me whole, I beg. Show me who I am supposed to be. I am broken, and there are pieces of me in places that I would never have imagined, places I’ve never been before. Parts of me I will never find. At least that’s what I thought.
I’m Every Woman

Fortunately, I am changing. That is fortunate or maybe unfortunate for me. Who am I evolving into? Am I becoming the person I genuinely want to be or the person the world prefers I become? Every friend, relationship, parent, sibling, or stranger expects me to be something, someone different.
So, I wear many masks. I am the innocent and helpful woman at church, loud and carefree with the best friends, caring and sometimes rude child, and loving girlfriend or wife. With each change to my environment, I become another. Surely when you look at me, you see a whole being, and to you, I may be a great friend, or a caring sister, or maybe wicked witch of the west. To you, through your lenses, I am what you see. The way you see me is entirely different from how the next person sees me. Yet, I will try my very best to uphold that picture you have of me or die trying to change it to the one you wish to see instead.
“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to reform (or pause and reflect).”
Mark Twain
Consciousness
Unless, of course, I regain consciousness and come to an understanding that I am not here to be a copy, but an original. The more I become aware, the fewer people I have in my circle. A strong woman who speaks her mind is not welcome in every circle. An independent chick who can handle her own makes others insecure. Beauty and confidence can make me become a bitch. Well, to some people anyway.
However, I am becoming. It’s my journey, and I’m not to experience it from another person’s point of view. If I am trying to fit what everyone would like me to be, who will have the pleasure of being ME? Honestly, I don’t believe anyone can do me better than me.
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
Oscar Wilde
Be You!

Frankly, it is time we stop caring about what everyone thinks and be you. I have heard that many times, from many different people. However, it is not until I’ve become aware, started to regain consciousness, that I truly understand. So ladies, do not allow anyone to dim your light, make you feel that you are lacking or not good enough, or put you in a box. Go against the grain. Read our blog post about self-expression! You can live your best life and be who you were created to be. You can do that by focusing on those five things:
- Forgive yourself for all the should have, could have, would have. Life moves forward, not backward. Stay focus on your goals and what you want you to accomplish.
- Do not allow others to dictate what you do and how you live. Not everyone likes you. That’s okay. People will talk about you regardless of how and what you do.
- Accept yourself for who you are as well as where you are in life. We all have dreams and goals. As humans, we are always striving for growth or better.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. We all have our struggles. What you see on the surface can be a façade. You should know….
- Be grateful for life and live fully without fear of what others think.
With every post, I am letting you into my world, my struggles, and how I managed and still managing to overcome. My only hope is to help one person. I may not know you personally, but you are not forgotten.

Until next time ladies, take care of yourself, and be the original.
1 Comment
Gwendolyn Artis · February 3, 2020 at 5:32 pm
I love this!! Keep it comin’